New Year | Real Me | West Hartford Premier Boudoir

New Year | Real Me 

It's that time of the year. The traditional New Year, new me! But what does that mean? New me. New as in, different? Are we striving to be something different every year? I find we focus on being something new, achieve that, and then by the end of December, we decide that all that work was for nothing. Why must we insert ourselves into the recycling bin every 12 months, disassemble all the growth we have done, and start over? There is always a need to change. New Year, new me. Or, is it New year, new expectations? Want to know our expectations? Just be.  

Our New Years' tradition: Allowing ourselves to be. How do we do this? Peeling back the layers of negative conditioning and expectations that have been placed upon ourselves by internal or external factors. "I will allow myself to be present in every moment as I am." Easy concept? I'd say yes is an honest answer. Easy to implement? Ah, now there is the tricky part, but don't worry, we are SO ready to be a new driving force to this mindset! 

Right now, how you are is beautiful at this very moment.

Layer One | Removal: Imposter Syndrome

Imposter syndrome is when someone does not believe they are good enough to be what they are trying to be, even if it's only trying to be more authentic. This could be a mindset, way of life, career, hobby, or status. Where does a phenomenon like this derive from? Doubt. 

Self-doubt can create a roller coaster of emotions and upheaval of everything we are afraid we are. Who am I? Am I being what everyone is striving to be? Authentic. What does it mean to be your authentic self? STOP! Overthinking is something we can all relate to. We place a grand mirror in our dressing room for our ladies for a reason. To prevent overthinking. This IS you. You are not pretending to be anyone. That is impossible. You are YOU, and that you is perfect. 

The mind cannot tell you anything but the truth by witnessing yourself in the mirror. You are beautiful and worthy. 

Layer Two | Defeating the Comparison WarBrianna: "I want to recreate this pose, but I don't look like the girl in the photo. I don't know if I can pull it off."

A sign of the comparison war is wanting to do something for yourself but being afraid you are not good enough. We compare ourselves to others and use up most of our energy, brainstorming how our ideas can't be authentic. The crisis isn't pulling off the pose; it is your confidence to go through with it. This is where we step in. We help you talk through what might be cycling in your mind. 

Amber: "How are you?"

Brianna: "I'm not sure about this one. I don't think it flatters my body type."

Amber: "Why do you think that?! You look AMAZING!"

Brianna: "You think so?"

Amber: "Absolutely!"

Brianna: "I saw the model on the package and had a moment when I looked in the mirror. Surprise, I'm not her ...."

Amber: "RIGHT! You're even better. You are you. Absolutely perfect and stunning."

Brianna: "Really? Haha yeah, you're right. I forgot I am beautiful in my own way."

Amber: "That's RIGHT! Are you ready?!"

Brianna: "Yeah! Let's do this!" 

You ARE good enough, as you are. You don't need to look like anyone but yourself. Anything you recreate WILL be better because it is you. Being new can sound like we do not want to be ourselves anymore. Here at our studio, we encourage you to be only yourself. That's it. No expectations, no unreasonable goals, simply you.

Here we peel back the layers. Unearthing the gold underneath all the heavily packed-in conditioned stone and gravel. Breaking through to the core of the truth. We peel back the layers to the perfection that is already there. Our real selves. Want to know a secret? Being authentic takes no effort. As in breathing, it comes automatically. Stop trying to shift when there is no need to. Your pace is perfect, as you are in your entirety. Having a moment? We are here, ready to redirect you to your natural breath.

Lynn: "I don't think I'm going to switch into that outfit."

Amber: "Why not?! It's gorgeous!"

Lynn: "I think it's going to be too tight around my stomach. I thought I was similar to the model when I ordered it. I should have ordered one size up."

Amber: "Those are thoughts. Not the truth. Let's try them on and take a look".

Lynn: "Okay, I'll try it on."

Amber: "STUNNING!! See? You look beautiful in this one!"

Lynn: "Yeah, you're right! I don't know why I was being so harsh and judgmental with myself".

Amber: "You feel better now?!"

Lynn: "Yeah! I feel so much better."

Amber: "GOOD! Let's do this!"

Lynn: "Ah! I'm excited all over again!"

When we get out of our own way, we allow ourselves to gift ourselves the happiness and joy we deserve. Sometimes, we don't even know we are keeping one foot out the door; that is where we come in. We will help you recognize any falters and redirect you back into your confidence. You will see for yourself why you had nothing to worry about…see?!

Layer Three | Casting a Perfect Mold

By the end of our ladies' boudoir sessions, they are beaming with high confidence and self-worth. Here is where we cast this version of you into permanence. Using your own inner flames of self-love and passion, we harden this "casing" you have allowed yourself to mold into and seal the deal! 

Amber: "You were absolutely amazing! I am so proud of you! You truly are stunning, and I am honored to have been able to work with you".

Meghan: "Thank you … I didn't think I would do that well, let alone look like THAT!"

Amber: "Surprise! It IS you!"

Meghan: "Yeah, you're right! I never thought I looked like that".

Amber: "You do!"

Meghan: "Yes, I do. I've told myself I look different for a long time. I'm not used to the idea of me looking like that."

Amber: "This is how you look to the world. The only one who couldn't see it was yourself, but that's the past! Now you know how beautiful you are."

Megan: "It's so true! I see myself in a whole new light! I could get used to this look!"

Amber: "YAS, girl!"

This year, do something different. Let go of expectations. Allow yourself to be as you are. Growth will come naturally. Nothing has to be forced, something we all tend to do from time to time. Be you. That is all we ask. That is all we could ever hope for you to want to be. Allow us to open the doors for a healthy new mindset and your overall self, including your beautiful physical body. 

Ready to honor your authentic self? We are ready for you! Please feel free to reach out and inquire about your boudoir session. We are excited to be of service to you and cannot wait to show the world you in your finest! 

 You being you.

 Xoxo,

Amber

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